Baby Second Night Syndrome: What’s Going On and How to Survive It
Hey there, new parent! First of all—congrats on your little bundle of joy! But let’s cut to the chase: did your baby’s second night throw you for a loop? Maybe your little one went from being a sleepy angel on their first day to a fussy, restless baby who just won’t settle. Sound familiar? If so, welcome to the second night syndrome club! Let’s talk about what’s going on, why it’s happening, and (most importantly) how you can get through it without losing your mind. Wait, What IS Second Night Syndrome? Okay, so here’s the deal: “second night syndrome” is a fancy way of describing something completely normal that happens to many newborns on their second night after birth. On that first day, your baby was likely calm, sleepy, and adjusting to the outside world. But come night two, they suddenly seem to have a LOT to say (read: cry) about life. They might want to nurse nonstop, hate being put down, and seem fussier than you expected. Before you panic, know this: it’s not you, it’s them. And it’s temporary. Why Is This Happening?! Honestly? Your baby’s just figuring things out. They’re like, “Whoa, what happened to my cozy, warm womb?” Here’s what’s behind all that fuss: 1. They’re Hungry (Sort of)Your baby is trying to get breastfeeding off to a strong start. All that nursing? It’s their way of telling your body, “Hey, make some milk!” 2. They Miss the WombThink about it: for nine months, they’ve been in a warm, snug, noisy cocoon. Now they’re out in the big wide world, and it feels weird. 3. They Need You to Help Them ChillBabies are born with immature nervous systems, so they need you—yes, you!—to help them feel safe and calm. So, What Can You Do About It? First off, take a deep breath. You’ve got this. Here are some tips to make it through the second night: Snuggle, Snuggle, SnuggleKeep your baby close, skin-to-skin if possible. It’s comforting for them and helps regulate their little bodies. Bonus: it’s super sweet bonding time. Feed on DemandYes, they’ll want to nurse a lot. That’s normal. Even if your milk hasn’t come in yet, the colostrum you’re producing is pure gold for your baby. Add Some Womb VibesBabies love white noise because it reminds them of the womb. Turn on a white noise machine or even a YouTube video of soothing sounds. Tag Team ItIf you’ve got a partner, divide and conquer. They can help with diaper changes, burping, or just holding the baby while you take a breather. Cut Yourself Some SlackThis is hard, and it’s okay to feel overwhelmed. The second night doesn’t last forever, so be gentle with yourself. When to Ask for Help Look, if you’re feeling completely lost or concerned about feeding, sleep, or anything else, don’t hesitate to reach out. Call your pediatrician, a lactation consultant, or a friend who’s been through it. There’s no shame in asking for support. The Big Takeaway Second night syndrome is your baby’s way of saying, “Hey, I’m figuring this out, and I need you!” It’s tough, but it’s also a sign that you’re already doing a great job meeting their needs. This phase will pass, and before you know it, you’ll be onto the next stage of your parenting journey. Hang in there—you’re not alone, and you’re rocking this! References: Jenn Sinrich, (October 9, 2023), Second night syndrome: The common shift that catches new parents off guard https://www.babycenter.com/baby/month-by-month/second-night-syndrome_41001472 HCD, (February 14, 2021), Second Night Syndrome https://harbourcitydoulas.com/2021/02/14/second-night-syndrome/ Omahabirthandbabie, (December 20, 2021), Second Night Syndrome https://omahabirthandbabies.com/second-night-syndrome/ Jan Barger, (January 1, 2018), Baby’s Second Night https://kellymom.com/ages/newborn/bf-basics/second-night/